Why I HATE Christianity

I try really hard to not get into conversations that discuss Christianity.

I am not religious. Spiritual yes, Christian fuck no!

Christianity is a toxic topic for me and the drivel that comes out of my mouth when people talk about it is disgusting. It wasn’t until recent years that I realized that I hate the concepts of Christianity with every fiber of my being.

I remember a time when I was young and out at a sleep away camp. I forget the name of the camp but I was young and it was a new camp. I recalled being at a session where some Camp Counselor told me that unless I got down on my knees and begged God to be able to follow him I would never be a true Christian and I would burn in Hell.

I cried.

I had always been taught that God chose me. I felt confused and scared.

I didn’t want to do it, but I had too. I felt bullied into being a Christian.

Fast forward many years and my parents forced me to attend church and youth group. I HATED youth group because I always thought the kids where picking on me and didn’t want to be my friend. I was not in the same elite social circle of Paster’s kids at the time and they let me know it. And what was worse than all of that was – if I didn’t attend these two events on a weekly basis I wasn’t allowed to go out with my school Friends.

I think it was at that age I realized that Christians can be fucking assholes.

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So when people ask me about the church and about religion – I can go on a rant about how I think most Christian are assholes. And I do. I can pick out all the things that prove my point, all the bullshit around the stories of the Bible. I will go there if I need too. I have even gone so far as to delete certain friends from my social media feed because I can’t stand the Christian bullshit they post.

Yesterday at work we were talking about how people can only really have an opinion based on their unique experience at life. And while you, the reader or Friend, may feel completely different that I do about religion and Christianity. My opinions are shaped by a pretty menacing unfair undertone and by mistreatment and unfairness that was part of my childhood.

What I didn’t understand as a child but I understand now is that that camp counselor was dealing with something in their own right and that they felt that they needed to be a servant of Gad – that feeling had nothing to do with me.  My parents were dealing with whatever struggles they were presented with and that shitty treatment was their insecurity and anxiety and had nothing to do with me.

Humans are simple creatures. Attitudes, perceptions are always a reflection of yourself and what you are going through. So remember that the next time someone is telling you what kind of spirituality you need, or what kind of God you need to believe in. It has nothing to do with you and everything to do with them.

While I will likely never change my adult perception of Christians because of some super scaring childhood memories – it is best to understand it is completely based on my perspective. I have found something else that works for me.  And, so should you.

Love, Light and Perceptive.

xoxo,

C

 

 

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10 thoughts on “Why I HATE Christianity

  1. Sounds like you had some frustrating experiences. But, what about God himself outside of all human ideology? Have you tried an adult, uninfluenced relationship with him? I’d hate for you to miss out on something personal and great because of human error. Just wondering if you’ve opened your mind to the possibility?

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    1. Thank for you comment 🙂 … I knew if I posted this there would be at least one or more of your type. The answer to your question is a resounding NO! I am not interested and I am not missing out. My missing out is your life perspective, not mine! Furthermore, I have shared two examples but there are many many more atrocious and heinous examples that I have chosen to not share publicly. I am just not interested in religion at all. As I said – I am very open minded to spirituality. I guess you missed the part where I said I FOUND something else that works for me. And that my perspective is different based on my life. I am so happy that God works for you as it doesn’t work for everyone and nor should it be forced on people that have fundamental differences with the doctrine.

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      1. I agree it shouldn’t be forced on anyone. Also, I didn’t share my perspective with you. I felt like my original comment was kind and nonjudgmental. You seem to have jumped to a lot on conclusions and me personally. I took the time to read your post and respond, which is what most people are looking for when they put their feelings out on the internet. Are you only looking from responsive from people who think exactly as you do?

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      2. Based on your comment I judged you as likely Christian. Likely someone who thinks if I tried again I would find Peace in the way of Jesus. And that I clearly must be mistaken and that If I tired again I would find Jesus. I apologize of that is not you. Based on your – maybe you should try again comment – it seemed fitting. Is that wrong?

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      3. Honestly – my thoughts in responding were that no one should make important decisions or form important decisions solely on human mistakes. Because I know that Christians can suck just like everyone else. Trust me. I’ve had some bad experiences with people who claim to be Christians. Probably my experiences were very comparable to yours, especially referring to childhood. No matter what the topic is, we should all do our own soul searching, exempt of others influence. It just sounded like your opinions were primarily based on people, NOT the actual concept of Christianity. Yes – I am a Christian (and because of that you have assigned many prejudices to me) but I don’t necessarily believe that everyone will “find Jesus.” I was just suggesting that it’s a shame you’ve been so negatively impacted by people and that, whatever the topic, you should take the time to look into it yourself. That’s all. I can actually have sympathy towards your bad encounters without implying that your life should be just like mine.

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      4. Well – my decision wasn’t based solely on human mistake. While I can see that is is easy to make that judgment based on the two short stories that I wrote about – it goes deeper than that. And a lot of soul searching which you have assumed I didn’t do. You are making a lot of judgements about me with that comment – assuming I am that fickle and unthoughtful – again I don’t think its a shame or that I am missing anything. While those events were at the beginning of my journey to end all ties with Christianity – they weren’t the sole events – none of which I need to explain. Thank you for pointing out that I need more charity on my story telling & writing – as I see that like the rest of the Christians you have take one part of it and expanded as you please and failed to have any compassion for my interest in other types of Spirituality. I will say it a again – I HAVE FOUND SOMETHING THAT WORKS FOR ME. Why do I need to do anything different? at this point in my life I am not interested in that type of religion – nor do I have any interested in changing my beliefs. What I do find interesting is how our individual journeys shape us to the people we are and what beliefs we chose to follow.

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      5. Gosh I would be surprised to find other people that think as I do, as only I have had my set of life experiences. That was kind of the point. I am allowed to have a different opinion than you. And to be fair – I did write in the article that I wasn’t very nice when it came to having conversations about this topic – yet you responded anyway.

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  2. Couldn’t agree more. I consider myself a believer, not a Christian. I don’t want to be associated with any religion, but that doesnt make me a heathen haha. I come from an overly religious family too so I had a similar upbringing where religion was forced on me to the point that it put a sour taste in my mouth.

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  3. Religious choice, if any, has to be an individual decision based on your own life experiences. I think that institutionalized religion is poor on love and understanding and rich on ignorance. Good luck with what ever path you choose for yourself.

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